Having a Relationship with Someone over the Internet
65Having a Relationship with Someone over the Internet
I love computers and consider myself a computer geek. I have been working with computers since 1992. I have five websites that I own and maintain myself. I work with the internet for at least three or four hours per day.
I have met a lot of nice people over the internet. However, if I was single, I don't thik I could ever have a relationship with anyone over the internet. I don't think you could ever really get to know a person unless you meet them face to face.
The main reason I would not have a relationship with anyone that I meet over the internet is trust. On the internet, people can lie to others and get away with it because how is anyone going to find out the truth? How can you trust someone when you have no way of knowing whether they are telling you the truth or not?
Another issue with having a relationship with someone over the internet is the danger aspect. The internet is a very dangerous place to be if you don't use it right. The problem with the internet is that you really don't know who you are talking to. Someone could come on the internet and say they are the perfect match for you, all their interests meet yours and this person could actually be someone that is going to stalk you or harm you. You have no way of knowing who you are talking to for sure.
The internet is good for a lot of things however, it does have it's dark side. Be very careful who you are dealing with.
UPDATE
Just moments after writing this hub, I heard on the news that some guy killed a woman he met on the internet through the Craigslist website. Does anyone else need to be reminded as to just how dangerous the internet is?
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Having a Relationship with Someone Over the Internet
Would you ever dated someone you met on the internet?
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Thank you Matrixkavi.
Well, I have to disagree with your post. I think the internet can be a good place to meet and get to know someone- but it depends on how that comes about. Trolling for prospective dates on a dating site might not be the right way. BUT...I did meet my husband through ICQ. He found me through the random chat function. We actually knew each other better than most people know each other when we met physically for the first time- 4 months after our first chat.
Sure, I was nervous, but I also had the sense that he was okay. It turned out my inner sense was right on the mark. Without the internet there is no way we could have met because he is German and I am American. Anyway, long story short, we will be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary this year and are still in love.
People can lie or do horrendous things when you meet them in "real life" too. I met a guy in a Tai Chi class who stalked me and a few crazy types through my church group. Another "winner" lied to me and told me he wasn't married when he was.
One of the pluses to meeting on the internet is that you can get to know a person and their personality before you judge their looks.
Now that the internet and social networking sites like Facebook are a major facet of our everyday lives people who meet through this medium will become more commonplace.
Just my two cents! :-)
Thank you for your two cents, K. D. Clement. I agree with you that you are correct in a lot of ways in response to my hub and I'm sure that the internet is the place for some people to meet. However, if I were single these days, I still would not want to meet someone over the internet. It is the element of fear and risk that would stop me. Maybe I am just too old-fashioned or stuck in my ways. Thanks again for your comment though.
I can totally understand your viewpoint. And I do think 10 years ago when I met my husband I had every right to be extremely nervous before I met him. And if you ever do decide to meet up with someone online it is not smart to do so by yourself.
There are online predators--but these predators exist in our everyday lives too. I can understand people being reticent about giving out personal info on the interenet though. That Craigslist incident is scary for sure. I guess there are no guarantees in life. Something that works for one couple could be disaster for another.
Exactly!!!
The internet is a great way of learning about people from different parts of the world. If it turns out that out of all those we meet online, we find someone really special that we'd be willing to take the chance to meet him or her in person, I think that's alright.
Taking the chance to meet in person someone who has won your heart in the internet-- while it involves some risks-- could be a step towards finding a lasting relationship. I still believe that there are many decent men and women who may be reticent or shy in person but have so much to share so they seek like-minded people to exchange ideas with over the net.
What's good about that? You can have a complete make over or work out to get into good shape to be physically desirable. But you can't have cerebral make over -- whatever thoughts you might have will always be poured out of that head in the form of words. There's a German saying that literally means "the fish stinks from the head" and is used in politics to mean "corruption starts at the top". I'd say that you can spot crooks, scammers, hackers and psychopaths from the words they use-- either they are too good to be true or use creepy words now and then. So watch out for these!
Glimmers, thank you for your comment. Very good points on this subject.
u may be correct,but u exajurate the dangerous part only,i believe that there r harmful peoples,but don't forgate about the good ones.so,i prefer geeting peoples through internet.
abel tt, thank you for your comment. I think that everyone needs to be very careful in dealing with anyone on the internet. The internet is a very dangerous tool if used in the wrong way.
I've been talking to a guy that I met on the Internet but I've never met him in real life or face to face. We've been talking for over a year now and he has a great personility but he says somethings that seem unreal to me. Realationship over the Internet can be complicated but it sees a different side of a person. The side that people like to hide. I can talk more freely with this guy and not make myself sound stupid. It's all about if your willing to take a chance which like in most realationships you are
Mandee, thank you for your comment. I agree that people are more easy to talk to on the internet but that is where it can be way more dangerous too.
Matrixkavi 3 years ago
Said well and right... [:)]